The training incorporates a blend of theory, interpersonal skills training, mindfulness-based experiential learning, discussion, reflection, group process and optional study groups. There will be a balance between didactic teaching, exercises in small and larger groups, group sharing, and individual reflection. In practical terms, participants may choose to use their relationships within the training group to explore their own personal relationship styles and to practice the skills taught in the training, as well as having time to explore their own personal relationships outside of the training group, both personal and professional.
During the course of the training, we will study and explore methods and techniques that emanate from a model of healing in which relationship has a key role. In this way, we hope to offer therapists a comprehensive framework for when relationship problems arise.
Communication has a central role in all living systems. Without it, any selforganised entity would die. Therefore, it is of great value to understand what communication is designed to do and how to build it in healing ways.
If good relationships fail to grow, it is because of our own limitations. Maturity, as well as personal power and awareness, is needed to slowly expand towards relationship mastery. Therefore, we pay much attention to personal growth within the relational web of the training group, and we work with interpersonal issues that come up.
There are times when the real relationship between therapist and client becomes part of the therapeutic process in one-on-one therapy. In long-term therapy, the relationship will change – it will become more equal, but never really equal. We need to know when and why to shift from an intrapersonal to an interpersonal approach. It is important to understand this shift of roles, and to train in the procedures and techniques of when we enter the path of becoming more of a real person for our client.
As the training group progresses and has more experiences together, we will apply the H.E.A.R.T. concepts of communication and transformation to the group as a whole. We will explore group dynamics in a Hakomi way. If things arise spontaneously, we will take the opportunity to learn from the emerging processes.
When a couple comes to therapy they are usually at a point where most of their dreams have collapsed, and they look – subjectively – at the likelihood of one of the greatest disappointments of their lives. At the same time, it may be the greatest challenge to growth they will ever encounter. This is a very powerful and precarious chance for transformation and healing. This part of the training will be the blue print for exploring and understanding relationship. Participants will be invited to confront their emotions and reactions towards other persons in the group, and they will receive assistance from their peers, as a way of modeling this transformational process. We will also explore how to apply the H.E.A.R.T. model in a couple therapy context.
Naturally, the deeply personal experience of encountering another is at the core of understanding relationship. Therefore, we expect that many participants will join this training so that they can also profit from it in their own personal life – and in love particularly. By the end of the training it will be apparent that this encounter is at the core of what it means to be human, and that through it we can deepen relationships beyond the limits of character, needs, and problem solving. There is the potential to discover how conscious loving relationships have a transpersonal dimension that can help us transcend who we are right now.