Passion and Presence®
Couple’s Retreats

Join us for our Awakened Intimacy training

A transformational journey for couples who want a vibrant and growthful erotic life together.

25 April 2023 - 1 October 2023

The Challenges and Rewards of “Real-Life” Sex

If you're like most couples, you cycle through periods of:

  • Having sex infrequently, or not at all
  • Having conflicted feelings about sex
  • Being too tired or stressed for sex
  • Being afraid to ask for what you want
  • Feeling defective in some way
  • Feeling bored by your routines

Strange as it may seem, we can use these issues to evolve through the practice of Awakened Intimacy.

The Awakened Intimacy Program for Couples

As our relationship changes, we face ongoing challenges to intimacy and desire.

These challenges can lead to conflict and disengagement. Or they can be a portal to creativity, connection, and growth.

The Awakened Intimacy program will help you (re)awaken your erotic connection and establish a conscious, engaged, and heart-full love relationship.

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Other benefits include:

  • More willingness to be erotic
  • Acceptance of imperfect encounters
  • More creativity, play, and exploration in your lovemaking
  • Freedom to revise or dispense with limiting sexual scripts
  • Less fear of getting triggered during sex
  • Greater comfort in talking about sex
  • A sense of being in it together
  • An understanding of what’s behind your discomfort and avoidance
  • Healing of shame and erotic wounds
  • A plan for tending eros through the seasons

Prerequisite: Mini retreat ‘Sampler’

VIRTUAL RETREAT
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Our “mini” retreat, “Enhancing Erotic Presence”, lets you sample our approach and gently “re-set” your erotic life. Discover why mindfulness is the “superfood” of great sex and practice four core skills of Awakened Intimacy.

skills
  • Mindful Touch
  • “Catch & Release” Technique
  • Response-Agility
  • Befriending
2022 dates
15 & 16 October 2022
SATURDAY AND SUNDAY FROM 9:00-14:00 FOR THE OCTOBER RETREAT (European Time)
3 & 4 DECEMBER, 2022
17:00-22:00 EUROPEAN TIME
price
€ 255
per couple

To register, select a suitable date on the event page and click the "Register Now" button.

The Awakened Intimacy program consists of two 7-day couple’s retreats in Mallorca, Spain, combined with four virtual training weekends, three private couples sessions, video recordings, and meetings with other couples.

THE AWAKENING OF EROS:
Presence, Curiosity, Healing, and Growth

LIVE RETREAT
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In our first retreat, we will create our container as a learning community and support you as a couple in becoming a cooperative team. Through the practice of “Seeing Fresh” and other mindful practices, we will overcome the dulling of eros with familiarity and learn to cultivate a state of mind for creative and pleasurable erotic encounters.

skills
  • Mindful Self-Study
  • Reporting From the Observer
  • Seeing Fresh
  • Planting Hearts
  • RIL Diagramming Process
  • Self-Dialogue
RETREAT DATES
25 April - 1 May 2023

THE HEART OF EROS:
Vulnerability and Connection

VIRTUAL RETREAT
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20 HOURS OF VIRTUAL TRAINING AND COACHING

Just as growth is evident when the first shoots surface from beneath the soil, our erotic connection grows whenever we disclose the hurts and fears that underly our self-protective strategies. In a series of online retreats, you will discover how an undefended way of loving opens the door to awakened intimacy.

skills
  • PREP Process
  • Care Cycle
  • Dis-identification
  • Monitoring Your States
retreat dates
27 & 28 May 2023
and
17 & 18 June 2023

THE CREATIVITY OF EROS:
Imagination, Expression, and Play

VIRTUAL RETREAT
about

In our second virtual retreat, you will mine your erotic imagination to explore your desires and reclaim exiled parts of yourself. Healing shame and honoring your boundaries allows you to enjoy the banquet of delights eros lays out for us instead of hiding and shrinking your erotic potential.

skills
  • Mindful Co-Investigation
  • Parts Play
  • Embodied Consent
  • Mindful Query
  • 3-step Ask
retreat dates
15 & 16 July 2023
and
26 & 27 August 2023

THE EMBODIMENT OF EROS:
Surrender, Freedom, and Flow

LIVE RETREAT
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In our final retreat, you will use the EROS cycle to release your templates and reference points and recover the creativity and transformational potential of goal-free sex. For this, we let go of our ideas of “great sex” and enter “the dark,” allowing ourselves to find and follow the flow of eros energy moving through our bodies.

skills
  • EROS Cycle
  • Erotic Attunement
  • Leading and Following
  • The “Naked Pause”
retreat dates
25 September - 1 October, 2023

Live Retreat Format

Each day consists of morning mindfulness practice followed by “tribe time,” where couples meet with other couples. After gathering as a whole group to explore themes, we give short talks and demonstrations followed by practice exercises with your partner.

You will be fully clothed for these exercises and will not engage in any sexual contact in class. Staff is on hand to provide supportive coaching.

Virtual Retreat Format

We will meet from 14:00-19:00 on both days via Zoom. You will receive recordings on relevant topics ahead of time so that we can practice new skills during our time together. We will hear from each couple on Saturday and offer coaching to address your needs.

These weekends are informative, impactful, and deepening for the group. Please plan to attend every weekend.

Please read our brochure for detailed information about The Awakened Intimacy program.

How much does The Awakened Intimacy Program coast?

EARLY BIRD TUITION
€4100

€3950 per person

(€7900 per couple)

REGISTER BY 25 NOVEMBER 2022

UPON ACCEPTANCE TO THE TRAINING, YOU WILL PAY A NON-REFUNDABLE €1600 DEPOSIT TO SECURE YOUR SPACE.

The balance due after paying the €1600 holding deposit is €6300, to be paid in full by the start of the training or in seven monthly payments of €900 starting 25 March 2023.

PAY IN FULL BONUSES
REGULAR TUITION

€4100 per person

(€8200 per couple)

UPON ACCEPTANCE TO THE TRAINING, YOU WILL PAY A NON-REFUNDABLE €1600 DEPOSIT TO SECURE YOUR SPACE.

The balance due after paying the €1600 holding deposit is €6600, to be paid in full by the start of the training or in seven monthly payments of €943 starting 25 March 2023.

PAY IN FULL BONUSES
To register, Complete the virtual mini retreat, fill out the application, and we’ll schedule a short interview to talk about your goals.
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Awaken your mindful sensuality and reconnect with your partner with Passion and Presence.

Passion & Presence® grows out of Maci Daye’s training as a sex therapist and her career as a psychotherapist and international trainer of Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy.

Daye addresses the everyday challenges of “real life” sex with gentle clarity, such as sex that has become routine, differences in preferences or desire, power struggles, a history of trauma, changes ranging from childbirth to aging, infidelity, communication challenges, and more.

Engaging stories depicting couples of diverse ages, backgrounds, genders, and orientations illustrate how the practice of Passion and Presence can help any couple establish a more intimate and wakeful erotic life.

Maci Daye packs her hard-earned wisdom from her decades of helping couples use their sexual issues as paths to becoming more fully alive, intimate, and erotic, into the pages of this comprehensive and practical book.

PHD Creator of the Internal Family Systems model of psychotherapy

Q & A

Does this program welcome LGBTQ+ couples?

Yes! We value diversity, equity, and inclusion in our retreats. Couples of all genders, orientations, and love styles are encouraged to attend.

How much time will I spend outside the retreat?

You will receive homework exercises each day of the live retreat to practice the skills in an erotic context. These take 45 minutes to an hour.

In addition, you will receive recordings on the key concepts to focus on practicing the skills during live sessions. Please make sure you listen to them before the program starts (1-2 hours).

Between live segments, you will:

  • Listen to recordings on the key concepts of Awakened Intimacy
  • Participate in four virtual coaching weekends
  • Schedule one erotic “date” per week
  • Meet with other couples for support
  • Receive two private couple’s sessions with the leaders.

Do I have to do the practice activities?

Our program is based on a model of consent, which means you choose what’s right for you. Most participants find these activities add safety, particularly if you’re at an impasse, but you can modify them to fit your needs or elect not to do them.

Why do I meet with other couples?

We intentionally foster an environment to dissolve the silence around sexuality, leading many of us to feel deficient and ashamed. However, you are not required to share explicit details about your sex life at any time.

Is this the right time to participate in the retreat?

The Awakened Intimacy program is for committed couples in a loving relationship who want to use their challenges to heal and grow together. If you are in a crisis or find erotic content triggering, please wait until you are further on your healing journey.

The program is not for estranged couples or those newly healing from an affair or trauma. However, if you are in the later phases of your recovery, please join us.

Have more questions?

Download our brochure or email us info@hakomimallorca.com