Hakomi Embodied and Aware Relationship Training Program H.E.A.R.T.®
Develop Essential Skills to Transform Your Relationships!
Research shows that our health, happiness, and professional success are deeply influenced by the strength of our relationships.
Yet, despite a longing for genuine connection, we often find ourselves stuck in patterns of misunderstanding, disconnection, or conflict—with friends, family, co-workers, and partners.
The HEART Program offers a mindful and experiential approach to developing more fluent, fulfilling, and engaged relationships—personally and professionally. Grounded in Hakomi’s principles and values, this training supports deep awareness, emotional presence, and authentic connection—without requiring you to change who you are.
The HEART Program can help you:
- Relate to others with greater skill, resilience, and presence
- Deepen authenticity and intimacy in your love and sexual relationships
- Create more meaningful and connected family interactions
- Build collaborative, respectful relationships with colleagues
- Support your clients in cultivating healthy, conscious connections
Relational growth in the HEART Program focuses around three essential areas:
Building Self-Knowledge
The HEART journey begins with listening inward, toward the quiet truths of what you most deeply long for in connection.
As you give voice to these aspirations—whether for intimacy, safety, freedom, or belonging—you begin to see the inner landscapes that shape how you move toward or away from what you desire. Your emotional states, protective patterns, and embodied memories all play a role. With gentle attention and mindfulness, you’ll learn to recognize these inner currents, attend to them with compassion, and cultivate the grounded presence that makes true connection possible.
Understanding your impact on others
It’s natural to focus on what others are doing to strain your relationship, but interpersonal challenges are rarely one-sided.
Mindfulness invites us to notice how our own being states and behaviors affect the people around us.
In the HEART Program, you’ll have opportunities to receive compassionate, real-time feedback and to explore what your relational patterns may evoke in others. This awareness fosters deeper understanding, empathy, and wiser choices in connection.
Creating the relationships you want
(and navigating sticky moments)
Even when we’re clear about the kinds of relationships we long for, old habits can keep us stuck.
In HEART, you’ll learn concrete relational skills: how to work with your triggers, tend to vulnerable parts of yourself, step out of defensiveness, and communicate with clarity and authenticity.
These tools support you in co-creating relationships that feel more aligned, resilient, and fulfilling.
Additional Dimensions of Learning
The Group as a Living Laboratory
The HEART Program includes not only structured learning, but also the rich, real-time experience of being in a group. When interpersonal dynamics arise—as they naturally do—we welcome them as opportunities to apply HEART principles in the moment. These unfolding processes become powerful mirrors for self-awareness and relational growth.
We’ll also explore healing modalities that center and nourish connection, as well as the role of communication in groups and living systems. The group itself becomes a field of practice—alive, dynamic, and deeply human—where we learn not only from the content, but from each other.
Love Relationships as a Path for Healing and the Transpersonal
The deeply personal experience of truly encountering another lies at the heart of what it means to be human. Conscious, loving relationships invite us into a transpersonal realm—where love becomes more than emotion, and connection becomes a gateway to compassion, humility, and shared awakening.
Through the HEART lens, we’ll explore how to stay open-hearted even when we are profoundly different. We’ll engage with the behavioral, emotional, and existential challenges that often arise in long-term intimacy, and learn how loving can be a spiritual path, not despite our differences—but because of them. We will learn how to love, despite being so different, and explore sexual and emotional challenges to long-term relationships.
HEART values and skills
Mindfulness
Grounded in mindfulness, the HEART Program invites you to observe how you relate and the effects of your actions—not to judge yourself as right or wrong, but to notice what’s working and what’s not.
We cultivate an open, curious stance toward the unfolding process within ourselves and in our relationships before rushing to solutions.
Emotional Growth
When relationships stall or falter, it often reflects our own internal limits. The HEART journey supports cultivating emotional maturity, personal power, and self-awareness—essential foundations for deeper, more fulfilling connection.
Within the relational web of the training group, you are held in a safe space where your truths and authenticity are honored and protected, even as you grow.
Consciousness
Consciousness invites us to become deeply aware of the states we inhabit, how we act from those places, and the impact this has on our relationships. We learn to notice which parts of ourselves are interacting, and how our inner states shape the way we speak and respond.
By exploring conscious alternatives to habitual, automatic behaviors, we open the door to participating more fully and intentionally in our connections.
the RIL Diagramming Process (Becoming aware of Protector and Protected states and parts)
Vulnerability
How can we transform interpersonal challenges into opportunities for growth and connection? It begins with recognizing how we protect ourselves—because it’s nearly impossible to open to others while guarded in defensive states.
From there, we cultivate ways to truly understand the other person as well, accessing deeper levels of connection through shared vulnerability.
Mindful Self-Report
Compassion
At the heart of the HEART Program is cultivating understanding and compassion—for yourself and for others. Compassion opens the heart and shifts us from getting our way to genuinely caring and being curious about self and others.
We come to understand that all beings seek connection, and that wounds—though painful—are the very things that call us to connection and empathy.
Compassionate Contact
Course Length & Dates
We offer this course in either English or German.
GERMAN HEART Course 3-day Introductory Workshops
GERMAN HEART training Course
About the program
For German speakers, we will be based in Germany for the first segment of the HEART program. The final two modules will be conducted in Sóller, Mallorca.
Program Format
Our HEART Course incorporates a blend of theory, interpersonal skills training, mindfulness-based experiential learning, discussion, reflection, group process, and optional study groups. In the latter part of the training, participants use their relationships with group members to practice core HEART. skills.
ENGLISH HEART Course 3-day Introductory Workshops
English HEART training Course
About the program
For English speakers. The three modules of the HEART program will be held in Sóller, Mallorca.
Program Format
Our HEART Course incorporates a blend of theory, interpersonal skills training, mindfulness-based experiential learning, discussion, reflection, group process, and optional study groups. In the latter part of the training, participants use their relationships with group members to practice core HEART. skills.
Meet the team
Halko Weiss, Ph.D., DBH, Dipl.-Psych.
A senior founding trainer of the Hakomi Institute and co-founder of Hakomi Mallorca, has been teaching HEART in Europe and Australia since the mid-90s.
He developed HEART to address the complexities of moving from “me” to “we.”
“Me” denotes the intrapersonal realm, which has traditionally been the primary focus of Hakomi, while “we” relates to the interpersonal domain, where two beings bring their individual needs to the relationship.
Maci Daye will co-facilitate the English Heart Training.
Maci has degrees in Education and Counseling from Harvard and Georgia State Universities and a doctorate in Human Sexuality. In addition, Maci completed the Intermediate Level of the Somatic Experiencing training.
Maci also developed a Hakomi-informed program on mindful sexuality and has led couple’s retreats and professional courses on her work in the U.S.A., Australia, and Europe since 2010.
The German training is co-facilitated by Ute Helmers.
Ute is a fully accredited clinical psychologist with a training in person-centered-psychotherapy (Carl Rogers), as well as psychodynamic therapy. She is also a clinical neuropsychologist. Ute has been working as a psychotherapist in neurological rehabilitation for 14 years and offers psychotherapy for individuals and couples in private practice.
Q & A
Who is this training for?
The training is for professionals and laypeople who want to improve their relationships and feel competent in handling interpersonal difficulties.
I'm a helping professional.
How will your training help me?
Our training will help you grow in ways that enable you to support your clients more effectively. According to the research, your success depends on your personhood much more than your clinical method or techniques.
In other words, if you are a therapist, your compassionate presence is vital. In addition to creating a safe and healing therapeutic relationship, the training will help you help the individuals and couples you work with handle their relationships with more emotional intelligence.
What are the program requirements?
You will need to have a basic grounding in mindfulness and a commitment to growth. Since we name and explore our experience rather than skirting complex issues, our training can at times be emotionally confronting. However, we are committed to holding a safe space so that any feedback is compassionate and phrased as an invitation to actively research your inner life.
I'm single. Will this course help me?
We designed the HEART. Training to help you enjoy rewarding relationships of all types. We do emphasize love relationships because of the unique opportunities for growth they offer. Nevertheless, as a single person, growing your relationship skills will help you with all kinds of current and future relationships.